House of Dreams

Have you ever noticed that when you say your dreams out loud and make them known to the universe, they sometimes just happen? I'm starting to experiment with this, or at least pay attention to it.

A couple of months ago my husband and I started talking about wanting a piano. I used to play, and our son is interested in playing. We can’t afford a new one, so we were looking for one second hand. I mentioned this to my mom, as she is a great networker, but I told her that we would not be able to get a piano until we moved into our new house.

Last week, without ever talking to my mom about it, my aunt emailed all the cousins asking if any of us want the family piano that belonged to my great-grandparents. It is a baby grand piano, the very piano my parents had when I was a child and on which I learned to play, and a cherished piece of family history. I am the only one who wants it, and my aunt has offered to have it moved for us this weekend, the very weekend we are moving into our new house!

Another dream that I have had for years was to have a house in the woods with a pond for my children to play in. I pictured a really joyful outdoorsy life, with barefoot kids playing in the mud and being outside a lot. My husband and I have talked about this dream as we've moved from Vermont to Los Angeles and back to Michigan...always thinking about "someday" when we find a place to put down roots. Well we're finally here.

Since that time, the reality of living close to town also has become a bigger priority, and has weaved itself into our dreams. It is important to us to be close enough for my husband to commute to work by bike, and for us to walk our children to school and ride our bikes to the beach. And we want neighbors. So we are buying a house in town. This is the house we may stay in for a really long time, and I was thinking this week about how (sadly) maybe we were giving up that dream about having the house with a pond. That's when I realized, this house HAS a pond. It was made by people, not nature, but it is a pond nonetheless. And it has a little waterfall and our boys absolutely adore it. It also has woods, a tiny little area, but enough for little boys to play in. Maybe this house doesn't look exactly like the one in my dream, but the dream changed over time. It still can be the house with a pond where we raise our barefoot children and have a really joyful earthy life.

These are just two examples that have come to me this week, I'm going to start paying more attention. And I'm going to start saying more of my dreams out loud! The universe seems to like that.

Can you think of dreams like this that have come true. Little ones, or big ones?

Creating a Clearing

I read a book a couple of years ago filled with stories about the authors experiences in cultures around the world, and lessons for living a more fulfilling life (I really wish I could remember the name of it!). One of the stories came back to me today vividly. In it the author traveled to Norway to visit a friend, and it was striking as he described how simple and basic his friends apartment was decorated, and the apartments of others he met while there. He found that while his friend had everything he needed - a couch, lamp, bed, clothes, dishes - he ONLY had what he needed. Nothing extra. For example, he had 6 glasses and 6 place settings, because that is the most people he would expect to be entertaining at once, but no more than that. No extras. His closet had only a few nice outfits there. He lived comfortably, but did not have any clutter. No excess.

The concept struck me as so liberating. Why have stuff cluttering your home when you will only use it once in a while, or not at all? Why spend money on things unless you really need them? It is very practical, and yet missing from the consumer culture here in the U.S.

This is at the forefront of my mind right now because we are in the process of packing up the tiny home we have been living in for the past 10 months and moving into the house we are buying. Our current house was only meant to be temporary, and the basement is completely full of unpacked boxes and furniture and toys that we had at our old house. The fact that we have not used most of the stuff down there makes me realize that we don't really NEED it. And it doesn't feel good to live on top of all that stuff, it is definitely bad feng shui. It is even hard to think very clearly sometimes when I've been in the house for long.

I'm also taking part in a workshop called Mondo Beyondo about following your dreams, and one of the lessons is to create a clearing in your life. This clearing can be clearing more time in your schedule, or literally clearing space and organizing your living space. The idea is that making this clearing frees up your energy and declutters your mind to allow something new to emerge. New opportunities, new space for doing art, or whatever it is that you need in your life that now has room to live.

The idea of clearing away a lot of that extra stuff and living more simply is so appealing to me. Living with just what we need would be freeing. If we don't need to buy so much we can work less. We can spend less time taking care of all of our stuff and more time doing the things we really like to do.

It is also a key component of living a green lifestyle. Buy less stuff. Period. Less waste, less energy, less pollution. We have to shake this weird concept that more is better. More stuff just takes up space.

We move in one week. Through this move I am making a clearing and look forward to seeing what new wonderful things come.

Safe Sunscreen

Today it was supposed to rain, instead we got a beautiful sunny, 70 degree day. So we headed to the beach. A 30 minute drive got us to the Leelanau State Park in Northport. We hiked about a mile through a cool, shady beech-sugar maple forest and another 100 yards through sand dunes to the edge of Lake Michigan. This is Cathead Bay, a beach I walked many times as a child with my dear friend Kristin. Her family's beach was visible in the distance to us today.

With two fair-skinned and sunburn-prone boys, I'm always looking for shade, pulling out hats and slathering on sunscreen. Today was no different, except that Emerson, being three years old, refused to wear sunscreen (and clothes for that matter).

To make sunscreen more appealing, I pulled out the Coppertone 50 SPF sunscreen spray I bought last year in a moment of weakness. Emerson loves the spray, it tickles you know. I slathered Charlie with the good stuff, Alba Botanica brand 18 SPF mineral sunscreen for kids. I scored that one at the food co-op last winter on sale. So what is the difference?

Thanks to Environmental Working Group's 2010 Sunscreen Guide, I can easily figure it out.

First, the Coppertone spray contains the chemical oxybenzone, which is a potential hormone disruptor that penetrates the skin. It is one of the ingredients the report recommends we avoid. Also, spray releases tiny droplets into the air that may not be safe to breathe. Not good.

The Alba lotion, on the other hand, contains Titanium Dioxide as the active ingredient, which is effective at blocking out UVA without penetrating the skin and entering the body. That's a good thing.

There is a lot of other great information and tips in the report, it is worth checking out. I'm definitely not going to use the spray lotion again, and I'll avoid oxybenzone altogether, opting for mineral sunscreens instead. Other take homes for me from the report: start our family on vitamin D supplements and bring our shade umbrella next time. It will be worth it, even though we'll have to shlep it through the woods on the way to the beach.


Charlie all protected from the sun.